My feeling is that women are owed something special by men. I think the truth is, women owe men something special too. We owe it to each other to reverence one another, and that is not only for the good of the other, but for the good of ourselves. We ourselves benefit when we hold our partner in high esteem. For who ever wanted to be with someone they didn’t highly regard? So the question becomes how should we treat each other special? What sorts of things do you do to give love to a man, and what for a woman? I think one big thing men should do for women, is give power and control in the relationship to the female.
Women are physically smaller than men, so by nature, they start off disempowered compared to their male partner. And women feel these differences. I think the whole feminist movement is really about women feeling the disempowerment their gender carries with it. Women have soft voices and soft skin, they are shorter than men, women have less physical strength. In a Darwinian world, women can feel abused – less than. There is a reason for the expression, “Women and children first.” The reason is that if men do not give special regard to women, (and children), they will be trampled underfoot.
And so I think in the world of romance, of special love and special treatment, men should give a lot of authority in the relationship to the woman. I am not saying men should become doormats or slaves to women. I’m saying that when you love a woman, and you want to let her know it, when you highly regard your partner, and you want to make her feel that, giving her a lot of control in the relationship is a great way to show her the special place she occupies in your heart. Romance is about extravagance! Romance is about going beyond the day to day, the normal routine of life. And I think that letting a woman know she has a special place of honor in the relationship, manifest by giving her a special place of power in the relationship, is a wonderful way to break out of the box and love exceedingly.
So let her know what special areas you are giving her control over. Thank her for taking on the role of the smaller partner; thank her for facing those challenges. Appreciate her for providing you with the incredible gift of a female in your life. If she wasn’t small and delicate, so you could be big and strong, where would the romance be?
Atheistic Artist 