Romance: Should Women Get to Be the Boss in a Relationship or Marriage?

My feeling is that women are owed something special by men. I think the truth is, women owe men something special too. We owe it to each other to reverence one another, and that is not only for the good of the other, but for the good of ourselves. We ourselves benefit when we hold our partner in high esteem. For who ever wanted to be with someone they didn’t highly regard? So the question becomes how should we treat each other special? What sorts of things do you do to give love to a man, and what for a woman? I think one big thing men should do for women, is give power and control in the relationship to the female.

Women are physically smaller than men, so by nature, they start off disempowered compared to their male partner. And women feel these differences. I think the whole feminist movement is really about women feeling the disempowerment their gender carries with it. Women have soft voices and soft skin, they are shorter than men, women have less physical strength. In a Darwinian world, women can feel abused – less than. There is a reason for the expression, “Women and children first.” The reason is that if men do not give special regard to women, (and children), they will be trampled underfoot.

And so I think in the world of romance, of special love and special treatment, men should give a lot of authority in the relationship to the woman. I am not saying men should become doormats or slaves to women. I’m saying that when you love a woman, and you want to let her know it, when you highly regard your partner, and you want to make her feel that, giving her a lot of control in the relationship is a great way to show her the special place she occupies in your heart. Romance is about extravagance! Romance is about going beyond the day to day, the normal routine of life. And I think that letting a woman know she has a special place of honor in the relationship, manifest by giving her a special place of power in the relationship, is a wonderful way to break out of the box and love exceedingly.

So let her know what special areas you are giving her control over. Thank her for taking on the role of the smaller partner; thank her for facing those challenges. Appreciate her for providing you with the incredible gift of a female in your life. If she wasn’t small and delicate, so you could be big and strong, where would the romance be?

Romance: Loving Your Wife by Giving Her Massages for Her Period Cramps

Expressing love to a woman in a way that really matters to her, is an important subject for me. Serving her when she needs it most should be a romantic priority for every man, so when I came across the idea of giving massages for period cramps, I was really interested. Press Modern Massage explains what period cramps are:

Period cramps, also known as dysmenorrhea, are a common symptom of premenstrual syndrome (PMS). These cramps occur when your uterus contracts to shed its lining. The intensity of the cramps can vary from person to person, but they can be quite severe in some cases.

I was surprised to find that these cramps could hurt her back as well:

The pain of period cramps can range from mild to severe and can last anywhere from a few hours to a few days. It is usually felt in the lower abdomen and can be accompanied by nausea, backache, headaches, and fatigue. Period cramps can also cause a feeling of bloating and can be accompanied by diarrhea or constipation.

With a miserable list like that, I would love to be able to do anything I could to help. Enter the massage:

Massage therapy can be helpful in reducing the discomfort of period cramps by relaxing tense muscles and increasing blood flow to the affected area…. It’s important to note that massage therapy should not be used as a substitute for medical treatment for severe period cramps. However, it can be a helpful complementary therapy that can help reduce discomfort and improve overall well-being.

There are a few different types of massage their article recommends, but I like the one called “massage oil”:

It involves the use of warm oil to massage the abdomen and lower back area. The massage helps to relax the muscles and reduce tension in the body. It also increases the circulation of blood in the area, which helps to reduce pain and discomfort.

The massage is usually done with warm oils such as almond oil, coconut oil, or jojoba oil can also be used. The oil should be applied gently to the area and massaged in circular motions. It is important to be gentle and not to press too hard as this can cause more pain.

The massage should be done for at least 10 minutes and can be repeated several times a day. This helps to reduce the pain and discomfort of period cramps. It also helps to reduce the stress and anxiety associated with PMS. Oil massage can be done at home or at a professional spa. If you are doing it at home, make sure to use a clean towel and a clean oil bottle. It is also important to use good-quality oil.

Massaging your wife this way during her period should be a priority for every male, every time she has her period. Opportunities to give love this way are a privilege that shouldn’t be missed!